Online Dating Love
Sunday, May 27, 2007
Some Guidelines to Online Dating
Online dating is fun. You could meet new friends and expand your social circle. Better yet, you might have the match you have been looking for.
If you haven’t tried online dating, there are some things you could keep in mind.
1. Start slow
Try searching on reputable online dating sites. You should look out for someone who is too good to be true on the first time. You should trust your instincts.
2. Protect yourself
You should not reveal your true identity until you feel comfortable about doing so. Do not instantly give your full name, contact numbers, home address, and other details where others can check your profile.
3. Exercise common sense and caution
Practice caution in easily trusting other people. Use common sense in making decisions. Take your time in determining the person’s integrity and motives. Pay attention every time you communicate.
4. Ask for a photo
Ask for a photo of a prospective match, not just because you want to see if they are good-looking. If possible, ask for several photos in different settings: Formal, casual, outdoors, and indoors. In that way you would have an idea of what he or she looks like.
5. Do not just chat via online
An electronic chat would not suffice. Talk via the telephone to assess the social and communication skills of your date. Avoid calling from home. Try calling from a cell phone or a telephone booth. Only when you are completely comfortable should you give your home number.
6. Meet only when you are completely ready
Meet only when you feel secure and ready to meet your online date. Do not feel obliged or persuaded to meet the other person even if he or she insists, if you are not yet ready.
7. Check for danger
If you decided to finally meet, pay close attention to any violent displays, intense frustration, or moves to control or pressure you.
8. Meet only in a secure place
When meeting your date, especially for the first time, meet him or her in a safe place. Tell a friend who your date is and your plans for the night. Set a time during your date where your friend can call you and ask if everything is okay.
It is better to be safe than sorry. Online dating has some perks, but it also has its pitfalls.
If you haven’t tried online dating, there are some things you could keep in mind.
1. Start slow
Try searching on reputable online dating sites. You should look out for someone who is too good to be true on the first time. You should trust your instincts.
2. Protect yourself
You should not reveal your true identity until you feel comfortable about doing so. Do not instantly give your full name, contact numbers, home address, and other details where others can check your profile.
3. Exercise common sense and caution
Practice caution in easily trusting other people. Use common sense in making decisions. Take your time in determining the person’s integrity and motives. Pay attention every time you communicate.
4. Ask for a photo
Ask for a photo of a prospective match, not just because you want to see if they are good-looking. If possible, ask for several photos in different settings: Formal, casual, outdoors, and indoors. In that way you would have an idea of what he or she looks like.
5. Do not just chat via online
An electronic chat would not suffice. Talk via the telephone to assess the social and communication skills of your date. Avoid calling from home. Try calling from a cell phone or a telephone booth. Only when you are completely comfortable should you give your home number.
6. Meet only when you are completely ready
Meet only when you feel secure and ready to meet your online date. Do not feel obliged or persuaded to meet the other person even if he or she insists, if you are not yet ready.
7. Check for danger
If you decided to finally meet, pay close attention to any violent displays, intense frustration, or moves to control or pressure you.
8. Meet only in a secure place
When meeting your date, especially for the first time, meet him or her in a safe place. Tell a friend who your date is and your plans for the night. Set a time during your date where your friend can call you and ask if everything is okay.
It is better to be safe than sorry. Online dating has some perks, but it also has its pitfalls.
posted by J.E.Putra at 8:50 AM
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Thursday, May 24, 2007
How to Check Your Online Date’s Honesty
Online dating can prove to be a wonderful experience but you have to remember certain precautions in dating people over the Net.
How would you know that the person you will be meeting for the first time is honest and is not deceiving you? Here are some tips to guide you.
1. Listen to what your gut is saying. If something does not feel right when communicating with him or her, it is probably an indication to move on. Trust on your instincts.
2. Do not give out your personal home information too early. If your date is an honest person, they will understand. They should also be aware of the danger that may lurk in online dating, and agree on some measures for protection. In fact, they may admire you for it, because it shows that you are not cheap, nor desperate for a date.
3. To maximize your safety, make an anonymous electronic mail account in services like Yahoo or Hotmail. Try not to give your complete name. This will protect your privacy. If you think someone is trustworthy enough to give out your main email address and other information, then you can give him or her the information.
4. If you think you have gathered enough information about your date, you could try doing a background check. If he or she is honest, they shouldn't make a big deal about it. After all, honest people don’t have anything to hide, do they?
Keep in mind that there are people out there who lie about their profile and the things they are saying over the Internet. Some lie about their marital status, some over their physical appearances, and some about their intentions. Be alert at all times. Not all people in online dating services are good people. Trust your instincts. Hopefully, you will find one that is honest and has good intentions for you. He or she might be your destiny.
How would you know that the person you will be meeting for the first time is honest and is not deceiving you? Here are some tips to guide you.
1. Listen to what your gut is saying. If something does not feel right when communicating with him or her, it is probably an indication to move on. Trust on your instincts.
2. Do not give out your personal home information too early. If your date is an honest person, they will understand. They should also be aware of the danger that may lurk in online dating, and agree on some measures for protection. In fact, they may admire you for it, because it shows that you are not cheap, nor desperate for a date.
3. To maximize your safety, make an anonymous electronic mail account in services like Yahoo or Hotmail. Try not to give your complete name. This will protect your privacy. If you think someone is trustworthy enough to give out your main email address and other information, then you can give him or her the information.
4. If you think you have gathered enough information about your date, you could try doing a background check. If he or she is honest, they shouldn't make a big deal about it. After all, honest people don’t have anything to hide, do they?
Keep in mind that there are people out there who lie about their profile and the things they are saying over the Internet. Some lie about their marital status, some over their physical appearances, and some about their intentions. Be alert at all times. Not all people in online dating services are good people. Trust your instincts. Hopefully, you will find one that is honest and has good intentions for you. He or she might be your destiny.
posted by J.E.Putra at 7:48 AM
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Monday, May 21, 2007
Dating Do's and Don'ts
Some Tips on How to Play Your Cards in the Dating Game
Those who are single and searching can almost never get enough of searching the Internet for how to make the best out of their first, second, third or umpteenth date. However, these few tips will bring you close to becoming one ideal date or someone who can battle it out with any kind of date, good or bad.
1. Don't ask these stupid questions.
How's the date going?
Why are you quiet?
Did I do anything wrong?
If you find yourself thinking along these lines, assume the date is not going well.
2. Do get active. Consider a concert, art exhibit or a street fair. Or, if you are both into more physical activities like rollerblading and ice skating, by all means, do so. However, if you are doing anything that will make you sweat, don't forget to bring your deodorant.
3. Don't wear anything suggestive or inappropriate. You don't want to distract your date with your plunging neckline or micro-mini skirt. Save those outfits for your 3rd or 4th date. Prioritize comfort when it comes to your clothing. Anything too fancy will make your date think that you're trying too hard or are overly high-maintenance, which are both big turn-offs.
4. Don't open any conversation regarding your past relationship or any topic related to sex. Spouting anything about marriage is a big no-no too.
5. Don't ogle other people.
Eyeballing other men or women while on a date is utterly disrespectful. How would you feel if your date ogled others?
6. Do keep your cell phone turned off.
Nothing is be more annoying than a person attending to phone calls every other minute while on a date.
7. Do leave politely.
If your date is being rude or obnoxious, you have the right to leave. However, do it politely. You should not stoop to his or her level.
Now you are less clueless when it comes to the dating game. Good luck!
Those who are single and searching can almost never get enough of searching the Internet for how to make the best out of their first, second, third or umpteenth date. However, these few tips will bring you close to becoming one ideal date or someone who can battle it out with any kind of date, good or bad.
1. Don't ask these stupid questions.
How's the date going?
Why are you quiet?
Did I do anything wrong?
If you find yourself thinking along these lines, assume the date is not going well.
2. Do get active. Consider a concert, art exhibit or a street fair. Or, if you are both into more physical activities like rollerblading and ice skating, by all means, do so. However, if you are doing anything that will make you sweat, don't forget to bring your deodorant.
3. Don't wear anything suggestive or inappropriate. You don't want to distract your date with your plunging neckline or micro-mini skirt. Save those outfits for your 3rd or 4th date. Prioritize comfort when it comes to your clothing. Anything too fancy will make your date think that you're trying too hard or are overly high-maintenance, which are both big turn-offs.
4. Don't open any conversation regarding your past relationship or any topic related to sex. Spouting anything about marriage is a big no-no too.
5. Don't ogle other people.
Eyeballing other men or women while on a date is utterly disrespectful. How would you feel if your date ogled others?
6. Do keep your cell phone turned off.
Nothing is be more annoying than a person attending to phone calls every other minute while on a date.
7. Do leave politely.
If your date is being rude or obnoxious, you have the right to leave. However, do it politely. You should not stoop to his or her level.
Now you are less clueless when it comes to the dating game. Good luck!
posted by J.E.Putra at 9:21 AM
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Sunday, May 20, 2007
The Pro’s of Online Dating
Dating these days is far different from years gone by. In the past people usually met at a party or were hooked up by friends, then in time the couple would come to know whether the friendship could go on to the next level or if it was never meant to be.
Meeting people online is similar to having friends doing all the work looking for that special someone. Recently, more people have had higher success rates in getting a date online than the conventional method.
Here are some interesting benefits to know about online dating;
1. Safety
By personally signing up with an online dating service, the person can meet many people without the risk of revealing one’s personal information. The only time that such details can be revealed will be done voluntarily by the searcher to the potential partner when a level of trust has been established.
2. Security
Dating online is supposed to help people who have difficulty meeting that special someone. Some people take advantage of that and prey on innocent people so most dating sites have made a system that allows one to report a user and have that person blocked for malicious conduct and prevent this from happening to other people.
3. Affordable
Dating people is costly especially since one goes out on more than one date. By getting to know many people online, one will be able to save a lot of money since the same information that one gathers online can be done just like going out on an actual date.
4. No more rejection and unwanted people
For men, dating online avoids the embarrassing experience of going up to meet a girl and getting rejected. By signing up on an online service and just chatting online, one can easily forget about this person and meet someone new.
For women, dating online helps avoid meeting the wrong person. It saves the person the time and effort of giving love to someone not as deserving as that potential partner.
5. Openness
Most people find it difficult being honest talking to a stranger because of the fear that they will not appreciate what is shown.
Since dating online provides a buffer by talking to someone via the computer and not face to face, another benefit is that one can be as open as one wants to be without fear of showing any sign of emotional attachment.
Online dating can be fun. Be it just to meet new friends or meet that potential partner.
Meeting people online is similar to having friends doing all the work looking for that special someone. Recently, more people have had higher success rates in getting a date online than the conventional method.
Here are some interesting benefits to know about online dating;
1. Safety
By personally signing up with an online dating service, the person can meet many people without the risk of revealing one’s personal information. The only time that such details can be revealed will be done voluntarily by the searcher to the potential partner when a level of trust has been established.
2. Security
Dating online is supposed to help people who have difficulty meeting that special someone. Some people take advantage of that and prey on innocent people so most dating sites have made a system that allows one to report a user and have that person blocked for malicious conduct and prevent this from happening to other people.
3. Affordable
Dating people is costly especially since one goes out on more than one date. By getting to know many people online, one will be able to save a lot of money since the same information that one gathers online can be done just like going out on an actual date.
4. No more rejection and unwanted people
For men, dating online avoids the embarrassing experience of going up to meet a girl and getting rejected. By signing up on an online service and just chatting online, one can easily forget about this person and meet someone new.
For women, dating online helps avoid meeting the wrong person. It saves the person the time and effort of giving love to someone not as deserving as that potential partner.
5. Openness
Most people find it difficult being honest talking to a stranger because of the fear that they will not appreciate what is shown.
Since dating online provides a buffer by talking to someone via the computer and not face to face, another benefit is that one can be as open as one wants to be without fear of showing any sign of emotional attachment.
Online dating can be fun. Be it just to meet new friends or meet that potential partner.
posted by J.E.Putra at 7:40 AM
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Saturday, May 19, 2007
First Impression: Advice for That First Date
First dates are tough situations. Often they can end up being painfully awkward. So what do you do?
Here is a list of dating tips to help you and your date get started on the right foot:
- Try not to meet at each other's houses and try to drive yourself. This is so that if you want to end the date early, you won't be trapped. This also helps avoid the impulse to invite your date in. Also, having your own car means you don't have to worry about your safety; your date won't know where you live and this avoids a date turning into some bad stalking nightmare.
- Try to keep the date as simple as possible. First dates can bring on jittery nerves. Jittery nerves and complicated plans do not mix. Just make it easy and enjoyable.
- Men, try ending the date first and do it politely, though make sure that you show you're interested. This will make you stand out.
- Women, don't wear anything provocative or too sexy. This sounds like an old cliché but first impressions last. Your date won't know anything about you except for how you look and how you behave. He will take you at face value and giving him the wrong impression on what sort of person you are is not something you want to do.
- Try and wear clothing that makes you confident and that you are comfortable wearing. It will be uncomfortable enough without worrying about that tightness around your waist or the itchy necktie.
- Men, try to be specific about where you are going for the date. This will make the entire affair more comfortable and it prepares your date for what to expect and what to wear. Wearing a cocktail dress to a fast food joint is definitely out!
- Ask your date about himself/herself. A healthy interest in getting to know your date is a good sign to show. This means that you want to learn about and think of your date as an interesting person. Remember, the most interesting conversationalists are those who ask about others. Great topics are work, hobbies and sports. Just keep it light and conversational.
- Try not to overdo the perfume or the cologne. Too strong and the scent can be quite distracting. It's very hard to complete an evening out if your date is dazed by the smell.
- Mouthwash is important. Also, brush your teeth and bring a couple of mints if you're eating out.
- And always remember... have fun and be yourself!
posted by J.E.Putra at 8:56 AM
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Free Online Dating
Think you found someone who might be your next serious partner online? The long nights you spend chatting and sending each other private e-mails can really make your heart skip a beat. When you finally set a date to meet each other, are you sure you are confident enough? Or will you fret because you told your online date that you are six two instead of five three in height?
Honesty is very important in any relationship. Read over these advantages of being truthful to your online date.
*Get more people to check out your profile
Not even a psychologist would know if what you have in your profile is really true. Fill out your profile with an honest detailed description of yourself. Sprinkle it with a little humor about your yet- to- improve qualities and you’re guaranteed that someone will message you in a matter of minutes. The key is to turn your flaws into something funny and forgiving.
*Get a good first impression
A good first impression would mean that your date finds exactly what you told them they would find. When you tell your online date the truth about your physical attributes, you can count on a second date.
*Lying requires a lot of thinking
Lying requires more brain activity. It would be obvious you’re lying if it takes you five to ten seconds to answer a simple question such as, Are you fat?
*Gain his/ her trust
Friendships built on sincerity are more likely to turn into a serious relationship. Trust is just as important as love and respect. Being truthful to your online date makes its easier for her to trust her heart to you.
*Strengthen your confidence
Being true to your self shows how you respect your identity. Knowing your challenges and improving your personality will attract others to you and you'll find they like you as you like yourself.
*Be less burdened
Don’t be pressured if an online date doesn’t have the same hobbies that you have. It doesn’t matter if she likes rock music and you like country music. As long as you have a blast going out, lying to get her approval is not necessary.
You can find true love anywhere, even online. Just be wary and safe when meeting strangers. You might not get your lifetime partner here, but meeting someone who makes you smile is one of life’s simple pleasures.
Honesty is very important in any relationship. Read over these advantages of being truthful to your online date.
*Get more people to check out your profile
Not even a psychologist would know if what you have in your profile is really true. Fill out your profile with an honest detailed description of yourself. Sprinkle it with a little humor about your yet- to- improve qualities and you’re guaranteed that someone will message you in a matter of minutes. The key is to turn your flaws into something funny and forgiving.
*Get a good first impression
A good first impression would mean that your date finds exactly what you told them they would find. When you tell your online date the truth about your physical attributes, you can count on a second date.
*Lying requires a lot of thinking
Lying requires more brain activity. It would be obvious you’re lying if it takes you five to ten seconds to answer a simple question such as, Are you fat?
*Gain his/ her trust
Friendships built on sincerity are more likely to turn into a serious relationship. Trust is just as important as love and respect. Being truthful to your online date makes its easier for her to trust her heart to you.
*Strengthen your confidence
Being true to your self shows how you respect your identity. Knowing your challenges and improving your personality will attract others to you and you'll find they like you as you like yourself.
*Be less burdened
Don’t be pressured if an online date doesn’t have the same hobbies that you have. It doesn’t matter if she likes rock music and you like country music. As long as you have a blast going out, lying to get her approval is not necessary.
You can find true love anywhere, even online. Just be wary and safe when meeting strangers. You might not get your lifetime partner here, but meeting someone who makes you smile is one of life’s simple pleasures.
posted by J.E.Putra at 8:51 AM
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Online Dating
Unlike its early days, online dating is fast becoming the modern trend of dating and socialization.
In fact, the estimated revenue garnered by online dating services just for the first half of 2003 had reached a whopping $214.3 million, according to Forbes Magazine. Moreover, just for the month of August 2005, almost 40 million people are known to have engaged in online dating services. That is almost half of the total population of the American singles today.
With these facts, online dating is certainly not just the hottest thing available in the Internet today but is already a phenomenon. No wonder many people contend that an individual would have a better chance of getting someone to date through an online dating service than in a single’s bar, or in any place for that matter.
However, even if statistics can prove how viable online dating is nowadays, one problem remains the same. How to rise to the top of the other 40 million people and get that date.
Here are some tips for people who want to try online dating:
1. Get a good profile
When doing things online, it is the profile that can tell how good or bad a person is. Therefore, it’s best for people to come up with a good and honest write-up about themselves.
2. Good pictures count
A picture is worth a thousand words, so make a good first impression with one of your best photos.
3. Confidence
The reason why most people do not get a good response in online dating may be because they are not confident enough.
It’s best to speak up and stand proud. The bottom line is, if people like themselves, they will be liked by others.
4. Never rush into a relationship
Many people think that with online dating, they could easily fall in love. It’s best to remember that love has to grow so it should never be rushed. It takes time to know one another and it surely takes time to love someone.
5. Always maintain a level of anonymity.
It’s best not to divulge too much information at once. For the sake of security it would be best if you maintain a certain level of anonymity.
These tips do not guarantee 100% satisfaction but can be very helpful when needed.
In fact, the estimated revenue garnered by online dating services just for the first half of 2003 had reached a whopping $214.3 million, according to Forbes Magazine. Moreover, just for the month of August 2005, almost 40 million people are known to have engaged in online dating services. That is almost half of the total population of the American singles today.
With these facts, online dating is certainly not just the hottest thing available in the Internet today but is already a phenomenon. No wonder many people contend that an individual would have a better chance of getting someone to date through an online dating service than in a single’s bar, or in any place for that matter.
However, even if statistics can prove how viable online dating is nowadays, one problem remains the same. How to rise to the top of the other 40 million people and get that date.
Here are some tips for people who want to try online dating:
1. Get a good profile
When doing things online, it is the profile that can tell how good or bad a person is. Therefore, it’s best for people to come up with a good and honest write-up about themselves.
2. Good pictures count
A picture is worth a thousand words, so make a good first impression with one of your best photos.
3. Confidence
The reason why most people do not get a good response in online dating may be because they are not confident enough.
It’s best to speak up and stand proud. The bottom line is, if people like themselves, they will be liked by others.
4. Never rush into a relationship
Many people think that with online dating, they could easily fall in love. It’s best to remember that love has to grow so it should never be rushed. It takes time to know one another and it surely takes time to love someone.
5. Always maintain a level of anonymity.
It’s best not to divulge too much information at once. For the sake of security it would be best if you maintain a certain level of anonymity.
These tips do not guarantee 100% satisfaction but can be very helpful when needed.
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posted by J.E.Putra at 8:45 AM
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